Self-Care After Partner Loss

If you’ve been to the grocery store or pharmacy lately, you’ve likely seen Valentine’s Day decor on display. This time of year is all about celebrating those we love, particularly our partners. For those grieving the death of a partner or spouse, Valentine’s Day is another grief reminder.

Sometimes when we're grieving, it helps to have a little encouragement to show some self-love. Try using this time of year to care for your needs! Keep reading for some self-care inspiration. If you’re experiencing grief and struggling to care for yourself, connect with me for a personalized self-care plan to navigate the difficult days of grief.

Get Practical Support

Grievers commonly experience aches and pains, fatigue, and brain fog. Your body might be screaming for a break, but partner loss means double responsibilities like caring for the kids, maintaining the home, and paying all the bills solo. Regardless of what specific changes partner loss has brought about, the truth is that you will need some help adjusting to your new reality. One of the best ways to show ourselves some love is to ask for help! I know it can be tough to ask for help, but death changed things in your life, and it’s okay to ask for support. Allow those around you to give you practical support; they want to help! Speak up and let your needs be known.

Connect With Others

Partner loss can shake our identity and leave us feeling lonely. Social connection is vital for emotional well-being. It’s essential to care for yourself by addressing your emotional needs following partner loss. If you’ve been used to relying on your partner for emotional support, you may have to step outside your comfort zone. Many grievers find comfort in support groups or counseling, while others rely on trusted family members or friends. No matter how you get it, social connections allow us to express our grief rather than keeping it bottled inside.

Find A Grief Outlet

There are many ways to make room for grief expression. Some grievers find emotional release through hobbies such as writing in a journal, cooking, gardening, hiking, building, or crafting. Relaxing and mindful hobbies are good outlets for grief. Sometimes the best way to care for ourselves is to make space for grief expression through a creative outlet. Uninterrupted time allows the mind to process and express emotions surrounding death. Expressing grief may not seem like your preferred activity, but grief can be a demanding monster when we ignore it for too long! It may seem counterintuitive, but acknowledging and honoring your emotions is the ultimate act of self-love!

The Bottom Line

Partner loss is a painful life event. Not only are you grieving the death of your loved one but the imagined future together. You will need tools for self-care on this journey as you experience the emotional and physical pangs of grief. Ask for support, connect to others, and find your grief expression. If you don’t know where to start, connect with Wingate Counseling to support you on this journey. You deserve to show yourself some love as you navigate this difficult time.